060. Why are you stuck in a Parent-Child Allegiance? (Part 2)
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This episode is the second half of our conversation focused on the challenging emotional barriers many bio-parents face in blended families. Often these barriers lead to a dynamic called a parent-child allegiance
If you missed the last episode, you may want to go back and listen to Episode 59 first — then come back here to catch the second half of the conversation where we'll talk about moving beyond those barriers and breaking free of parent-child allegiances.
And in the coming weeks, keep an eye out for our upcoming discussion around the 'easy wrong turns' that step-parents can make in this challenging dynamic — plus some practical steps that can help both of you work together and overcome a parent-child allegiance.
In This Episode You'll Discover:
Two motivating factors that helped Kim move beyond guilt and fear
How authoritative skill building can boost confidence to help overcome parental insecurities — and reclaim parental authority
The importance of courageously taking short-term risks that'll result in long-term benefits
The problem with comparing and ranking "Love" - and how to handle it well
Practical steps to identify and capture emotional barriers and move forward
Resources from this Episode:
Episode 49: Should Your Highest Priority Be Your Marriage…or Your Kids?
Episode 21: What is the Stranded Stranger & Trapped Teammate Experience?
BOOK: The Smart Stepfamily by Ron Deal
BOOK: Parenting with Love and Logic by Foster Cline & Jim Fay
Episode 4: Can you overcome your parenting-style differences?
Blog: How to Parent as a Team and Steer Clear of Power Struggles
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