202. How to Break Free from Painful Cycles and Enjoy Deeper Levels of Intimacy [with Ron & Nan Deal]
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No one enjoys being in conflict with their spouse. But the reality for every couple is that conflict is unavoidable.
We all experience disagreement that leads to conflict. But there's a big difference between doing conflict well versus spiraling into unproductive patterns where we say and do things that at best aren't helpful and at worst erode love and trust in our relationship.
You can probably relate. Your spouse does something that triggers a painful emotion and you react. You might blame, shame yourself, take control, or try to avoid the whole situation. It's natural and normal for all of us to react these ways, but you don't have to stay stuck in unproductive, damaging patterns. You can learn to do conflict well, just like we have!
In this episode, our friends Ron and Nan Deal share their personal journey. After hitting rock bottom in their marriage, finding restoration, and discovering the tools that transformed their relationship, they've written an amazing book called The Mindful Marriage. Their new book breaks down powerful concepts into relatable, practical steps for couples everywhere.
Ron and Nan are popular speakers who specialize in restoration therapy, blended families, and supporting grieving parents. Ron, a bestselling author, licensed marriage and family therapist, and podcaster, also serves as a senior director at FamilyLife. Nan, a retired teacher, now champions her community through Live Thankfully.
From navigating destructive cycles of conflict and emotional pain to increasing love, trust, and intimacy in your relationship — today's conversation is full of hope, encouragement, and actionable wisdom!
What You'll Learn:
Identifying and breaking free from pain cycles in your relationship.
Practical steps to create a “peace cycle” that strengthens love and trust.
Insights into how family history impacts marriage dynamics.
Why emotional regulation is a game-changer for blended families.
The importance of “usness” in building a thriving relationship.
Resources Mentioned:
The Mindful Marriage by Ron and Nan Deal
Restoration Therapy model by Dr. Terry Hargrave
Bonus materials are available at RonDeal.org
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