015. 7 Unexpected Realities That Can Leave You Feeling Blindsided
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Nobody likes surprises — well, not the bad kind anyway!
We all want to feel that our marriage and blended family life is stable and secure. For most of us, it does feel that way…at first…
Then we start getting blindsided!
Blending our families doesn't "click" like we thought it would, parenting is harder than we expected, and step-kids aren't responding the way we anticipated. Oh, and let's not forget the "Ex-Factor". The list goes on.
If you've ever felt blindsided in your blended family, you're not the only one. We've experienced it in our home and we've connected with countless other couples that say the same.
In fact, we've identified 7 Blindsides that are common in most blended families. That's what we're covering in this episode.
We can't necessarily keep you from experiencing these blindsides, but we can help you handle them like a pro when they hit. Listen to this episode to find out what the common blindsides are and how you can keep them from knocking you off course.
Then, leave a comment below and share which blindsides you're experiencing and what you're doing about them.
Inside this Episode:
Imagining a wedding day blindside…
Blindside #1: Low & Slow vs. Fast & Fun
Blindside #2: Parenting is about Relationships — not Responsibilities
Blindside #3: Authority vs. Influence
Blindside #4: Part of the Package vs. The Whole Package
Blindside #5: Kids are Adaptable vs. Stuck
Blindside #6: Family Time vs. 1:1 Connections
Blindside #7: Biological Loyalties vs. Partnership Priorities
Resources from this Episode:
Discover more about Blindside #2 in this blog: How to Parent as a Team and Steer Clear of Power Struggles
Discover more about Blindside #3 in this blog: The Blended Family Marriage: More Than Two to Tango
Discover more about Blindside #5 from Episode 006: Are Your Kids Stuck in a 'Parental Allegiance' and What Can You Do About It?
Discover more about Blindside #5 from Episode 007: Toxic Exes and Hurting Kids - 5 Steps That Help (Part 1)
Consider checking out this book related to Blindside #5: In Their Shoes
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