014. 3 Helpful Steps to Overcome Your “Perfectionistic” Ideals and Disappointments
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We're betting you remember those hopes and dreams you had for your blended family adventure when you first set out! But somewhere along the way you realized, "…this isn't going quite the way I thought it would."
Those "perfect ideals" you had that you would be one big happy family seem out of reach — and you're left with disappointment that you never saw coming. Meanwhile, the culture is telling you that you're supposed to be just like a first family, and that only adds more pressure.
You know that your family ought to be happy and connected. You might even see other blended families that seem to "have it all together". There must be something you can do to bring that ideal into reality.
I (Mike) remember feeling that way too — thinking to myself, "I didn't sign up for this!" And I got stuck trying to force my "perfectionistic ideals" to become our reality. The more I pushed, the more disappointed I felt.
What I finally discovered were 3 steps that helped me get out of that perfectionistic mindset. When I did that the pressure I felt started to lift and I could see the potential for our future as a family.
Kim and I are sharing those 3 steps in this episode. You'll discover how you can overcome that pressure and disappointment too!
If you take this episode seriously, you'll be at the beginning of a new path to overcoming that hopeless feeling and leading yourself (and your family) forward toward the future you really want.
Inside this Episode:
Cultural and social impacts on our "ideals"
The problems with Perfectionism
3 Steps to help reframe your "ideals"
Resources from this Episode:
Article Mention: What Causes Perfectionism and How to Get Over It
Article Mention: Scheduled Sadness: Why You Should Make Time to be Sad on Purpose
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