165. How important is your mindset when it comes to blended family life?
More ways to listen:
If you're like me (Mike), when you encounter a challenging situation, you're determined to successfully conquer it. You'll jump right in by engaging with lots of resources like books or podcasts — and reaching out for professional support if needed. You don't want to stay stuck and you're all about new learning and growth.
But if this does NOT describe you, maybe you're more naturally like Kim. She tends to be more comfortable staying stuck in a challenge much longer than I am. She has her own unique perspectives on how to approach a challenge and moves at a different pace than me. Seeking and engaging in new learning is outside her comfort zone and she's more resistant to growth.
The truth is that Kim WAS like this in our early years of blending. Her "fixed" mindset and my "growth" mindset put us in opposition around how to move forward in facing our challenges.
And our different mindsets ended up creating even MORE challenging situations for us as a couple - it was difficult to stay united and we were often frustrated with each other.
But eventually, we figured out how to overcome our opposing mindsets and work as a team to make real progress in our blended family challenges.
In this episode, we'll explore the importance of mindset and offer practical tips for cultivating a growth mindset (which Kim has used over the years). We'll also share how we were able to get on the same page with growth while honoring our individual differences.
You'll Discover:
The difference between a growth mindset and a fixed mindset
The benefits of cultivating a growth mindset while leading your blended family
Practical ways to move toward a growth mindset - even if you tend to naturally resist growth or experience tough emotions
A helpful approach in supporting and encouraging your fixed-minded partner without adding pressure and unrealistic expectation
Resources from this Episode:
We mentioned the book Soundtracks by Jon Acuff
Ready for personalized support? Schedule your free coaching call
We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help. You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home. Schedule your free call here: https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesession
Feeling overwhelmed and not sure where to start?
With so many episodes available here on the show, it might feel a bit overwhelming to find the topics that matter most to you. That's why we've created the Blended Family Breakthrough Quiz which will direct you to the most impactful episodes that pertain to you personally.
Join our community
You don't need to navigate blended family life alone. Join our supportive community where you'll connect directly with us and other couples just like you who are intentionally investing in healthy blending strategies. Click the link to find out how to join: https://learning.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether
Subscribe or Follow the Show
Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet? If not, we want to encourage you to do that today so you don't miss a single episode.
Click here to subscribe on Apple Podcasts
Click here to follow on Spotify
Leave a Review in Apple Podcasts
If you’re feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they’re fun for us read too! :-) Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is. Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback.
