113. How to Respond When Being Disregarded, Devalued, or Dismissed by Your Former Spouse
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Imagine a time when co-parenting with your Ex is reasonable, collaborative, and maybe even pleasant.
Is that hard for you to imagine?
Often it feels like all the pain from the past and differing perspectives hijack your ability to cooperate effectively. And ultimately, when co-parenting breaks down it's the kids who pay the price. The tension between their homes robs kids of just being themselves and feeling secure in both homes.
I wish we could give you the "magic formula" to perfect your co-parenting negotiations — but you and I both know that doesn’t really exist.
However, there are plenty of things you can do to create more peace and cooperation with your former spouse — regardless of how they choose to react. And the more you focus on doing your part, the better things will be for your kids.
In this episode, we're sharing 5 steps you can take when the collaboration and communication in your co-parenting coalition seem to be breaking down.
You'll Discover:
The best way to respond when negative emotions get triggered by a former spouse
5 practical steps to build cooperation in your co-parenting relationship - even when you disagree
How to maintain self-control and stay focused on the well-being of your kids
Resources from this Episode:
Episode 112: 3 Dangerous Dynamics That Can Destroy Co-Parenting - And Hurt the Kids
Book: Divorce Poison by Dr. Richard Warshak
Episode 42: Our Challenging Story of Parental Alienation - and 6 Tips For You
Episode 33: How to Cope with a Difficult Ex and Protect Your Kids (FREE Cheat Sheet Included)
Episode 8: Toxic Exes and Defiant Kids - A Simple Strategy Against Lies and Slander
Episode 67 - The Best Co-Parenting Strategy That You Already Know
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